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Loyola University in Maryland

Graduate Program in Pastoral Counseling

This month’s video is a brief infomercial highlighting the pastoral counseling graduate program (both MS and PhD) at Loyola University in Maryland.  The CACREP accredited program at Loyola offers one of the premier learning experiences in the country in both pastoral counseling and pastoral care.

You can learn more about Loyola’s graduate program in pastoral counseling here.

The video can be seen here.


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An accredited service center of

the American Association of Pastoral Counselors and the Samaritan Institute

MCCS Mission

We take a holistic approach to personal and family problems.

We are available to help with the emotional, relational, and spiritual dimensions of life’s challenges.

We are committed to providing a safe place, a listening ear, a caring presence, genuine respect, quality service, and positive regard.

We are dedicated to the healing of heart, mind, and soul.

Disappointment and Hope

Disappointment is an emotion which permeates many aspects of our human experience.  Many individuals have been disappointed by a parent who has broken promises, a spouse who has been unfaithful, a child who has made poor decisions causing pain to a family, or a sudden loss of a job once considered secure.  Whether it is disappointment in people, or in circumstances, it can impact an individual in many ways, from sadness and frustration to symptoms of depression. 

Disappointment results from thoughts and expectations being out of line with reality.  Our expectations and hopes, which may be realistic and appropriate in our own mind, may not be realistic at all.   When we set our hearts on people and circumstances, we often set ourselves up for disappointment.  Disappointment is often a painful reality for people who want to believe the best in those around them, only to experience the sting of reality.  When we are hurt, there may be a tendency to protect ourselves, becoming emotionally distant and unavailable, often hindering our ability to form healthy trusting relationships.

All people experience some kind of disappointment in life.  The pain of disappointment is difficult, but it does not have to significantly hinder our ability to trust if we can learn from our experience. 

How do we deal with the sting of disappointment?  Here are three areas to consider.

Shift Your Expectations – Evaluate what you expect from those around you.  Are your expectations fair and reasonable?  Is your disappointment confined to a few areas of your life, or do you live in a perpetual state of disappointment?  Ask others who can objectively tell you if your expectations are out of line with reality, and when appropriate, make changes.

Redirect Your Thinking – Redirecting your negative thinking may not change your circumstance, but it can change how you feel.   What things can you change in your situation, and what are things you cannot change?  You do not have control over how others act, but you have control over how you respond to them.

Communicate More Effectively - What influence you have over others is impacted by how well you communicate.  Listen actively, and reflect back what others have said, even if it is difficult.  Stress is caused when one person does not fully comprehend what the other person is saying and meaning.  By restating what was said, you reduce problems from the beginning.  You can also ask others to restate what they think you said.

As those in the Christian faith approach Easter, and we consider Jesus’ journey through suffering, death, and resurrection, we cling to the promise that in the midst of the most difficult circumstances, our God does not disappoint us.  May this ultimate reality provide hope for us all no matter what disappointing circumstances we face.

Eddie Ingram, MDiv, MSW


Contacting MCCS

Methodist Counseling and Consultation Services provides mental health counseling and pastoral counseling in the greater Charlotte area and in satellite offices throughout the western piedmont of North Carolina.  To learn more about us and the kinds of services we provide, or to find out how to make an appointment with a therapist in your geographical area, feel free to contact us (704-375-5354 or by email).  We would love to hear from you.